Will I not become a suitable helper for a child of God?

Never Mind; I want to help all His children.

Written by Hripsime M.

When I knew that this month's subject was “Advantages of singleness,” I prayed that the Lord would help me write something to encourage my dear sisters and even myself!  Being an older single who is not unhappy about being unmarried and in her thirties, surely I have something to say.  Almost every girl is afraid to become an “old maiden.”  I have seen many Christian girls who married guys who were not truly converted, just because they did not want to become an old maiden.  When there is a single lady in her thirties, her friends and relatives think it is their duty to find a husband for her.  Maybe I am not the only girl who is often asked, “Why are you not married by now?”  So I believe that all of us need to be encouraged to focus only on our precious Lord, to rejoice always in His presence.  Never become sad because of the absence of the one who has not come yet and maybe will never come! 

Of course, the advantages of singleness are many.  Because the Lord has given me a servant's heart, readiness to help, and willingness to remain in the shadow, sometimes I think the Lord wants me to become the helper of a child of God.  But on the other hand, I think that marriage may not be His plan for me.  Maybe He wants me to serve not only a limited number of persons (my future husband and my children), but all of His children, my dear sisters and brothers.  Christian single ladies have more time and opportunities to serve than married women do.  Why, I never tell a brother or sister, “I don't have time” or “I am busy.”  I never refuse when someone needs my help.  I think that one of the reasons that I am not married.  A married woman has two duties, to please God and her husband.  As for me, I have only to please God.  Married sisters give all of their attention to their family—their husband and children.  But the unmarried girls have time to give much attention to all of God's family.  Having not their own children, they are more thoughtful to God's children.  While a Christian wife is busy with her husband, a Christian girl has time to comfort her friend who are sad, help her neighbor, to talk with an old woman who needs company, and has other opportunities to brighten someone's day.

If I were married, would I have as much time for my personal devotions?  Of course, I would have devotions after marriage too, but not as much as I would like or whenever I would like.  In my country, most married sons live with their parents and most women have to take care of a big family (for example my sister lives in a family composed of 13 persons and she does not have any children yet).  So I would not have much time for devotions.  Would I have the time and would it be possible to write poems?  I am told many times that my poems are a blessing for God's children especially for young sisters.  I am sure that Christian girls, who are sad because they don't have yet the “profession” of a suitable helper, will be encouraged seeing that a sister in the same status in her thirties is so happy.  I am sure that my poems “Prayer of a daughter of God,” “Being like Bible women,” “Conversation with the women of Proverbs 31” will always be a blessing for my young sisters.  They could not be written by a married woman.  (Editress Note: See Hripsime’s poems on our LIW Blog.)

Almost every girl dreams of wearing a white gown only once in her life a white gown, but we as unmarried daughters of God, let us seek the fine linen clean and bright.  Maybe we will never have to do the commandment of Ephesians 5:22 “Wives, submit...” and the one who would do the commandment of Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love...” will never come.  But let us do with gladness the two all-embracing commandments, “Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbor as thyself” (Luke 10:27).  Maybe we will never stand before the altar and say, “I do” with one of God's children, but what a joy to say “yes” to every Word of our dear Lord!  Maybe we will never start our morning praying with a man of God, but we have more time to pray for all God's children.  Maybe all of our life we will do our devotions alone, we will pray and sing alone, memorize Scripture verses alone, but we will enjoy the closeness of our sweet Jesus, and never feel lonely.  Maybe I will never have someone whom I could ask my Bible questions (1 Corinthians 14:35), but I will have more opportunities to give an answer to everyone who asks me to give the reason for the hope that I have (1 Peter 3:15).  Maybe we will never have the family status of the lady from Proverbs 31 but we can have her qualities.  The virtuous wife is found by someone but we, virtuous maidens, may always stay unnoticeable.  But never matter, our Lord notices us and if we are not far above rubies for no man, we are precious for our heavenly Father.  Maybe no one will ever tell us, “Many daughters have done well but you excel them all,” but we want to pronounce words that could bless, we can open our mouth with wisdom and kindness and wait for the praise of our Lord, “Well done, you have been faithful over a few things.”

I would like to finish my article with the words of my dear friend Sarah Ann, “While we wait together for the man the Lord has for us, let us continue to make our Lord the sweetest love in our life!!!”

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