Waiting
Written by Kimberly A.
It seems like forever that we wait. We go from playing with our dolls and tea parties with other girls to parties with boys. We then venture off into our kiss-chasing and so on, until we come to the point of wanting something more. We want to find someone special—someone to have that “unreal” relationship with, someone to talk to, someone to hold, someone to truly love as your own. For this, I think you have to be really really patient. I guess I’m still learning how to do this.
At the age of 12, my mother gave me a purity ring. This is a symbol, first of my love for God, and secondly a symbol that I’m waiting and saving my purity until marriage. Some girls who wear purity rings chose to wear them on the ring finger on there right hand. That is ok. For me personally, I chose to wear my ring on my left hand ring finger. Yes, I have had looks and still get them. I am also asked many questions. This is an opportunity from God to speak about Him at the same time. I’m taking a stand, and there that ring will stay until I’m married. (Except when I’m engaged, and then I’ll change it to the right hand.) I know from asking guys how they feel about girls wearing purity rings: they think that it’s mighty special when they see them. They know that she has waited and she has something special.
God has been helping me, in one way, by showing me some verses and speaking through different people. Another way I have been dealing with this waiting period is by googling some groups and pages with articles from others sharing the same experience. Places just like “Ladies In Waiting.”
One of the verses that is really helping me and that may help some of you is Proverbs 31.10, “An excellent wife, who can find? For she is worth far more precious than jewels.” This really sticks out at me — “An excellent wife, who can find?” Its right there in the Bible, simply stated. We, as ladies in waiting, do not have to go out and search for Mr. Right. That isn’t our job. He will come find us when the time is right—when its God’s timing.
We have this clock at home, a nice stone one, which states right in the middle, “In God’s Perfect Timing.” This is so true; we just need to believe it and accept it.
Going back to Proverbs 31:10, we need to remember to hold out for the right person. We are worth far more than precious jewels. There is a saying that “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend.” Well, we all know that the best diamonds sparkle beyond belief and have no imperfections whatsoever. Lets us aim to be that diamond. When we waste the time God has given by being impatient (maybe that’s using a guy here or there just for some satisfaction while looking for Mr. Right), that’s just going to chip your diamond. Your diamond can shatter, scratch, and become less shiny. Is that what you really want??
Since writing this, it seems God is giving me more and more examples of purity to share—ones that He has given to me over the years.
I’ll just share one more today and that is the ‘Piggy Bank’. This is one of my favorites. Imagine your purity and waiting days as a piggy bank. Just like normal bank accounts, our money grows with interest. If you kiss a guy, it’s like you are spending your pureness. I personally know someone who thought she had Mr.Right, but it didn’t turn out that way and she spent all her money in such a short time. What was done was done. Imagine saving everything for Mr Right. Your wedding night will be a very special event.
Never under estimate the power of waiting!! I hope this helps you. It has even helped me reinstate my waiting beliefs. Grow stronger in Him, and God Bless. If any one can shed anymore light on this with newer tips for me, contact me or LIW.